Saturday, February 6, 2010

Word of the Gay: "Guydykes"

"Guydykes" are straight men who have a strong physical attraction towards lesbian, bisexual women, and to the queer female scene.

21 comments:

Anonymous said...

that is one the most idiotic things ive seen in quite some time!

Renee said...

I didn't even know that there was a name for that.

Anonymous said...

It would be interesting to see a comparison between "guydykes" and "male lesbians".

Queers United said...

Anon what do you mean by "male lesbians" because a transguy liking women would render him a straight or bi male. The only thing I can think of for "male lesbians" would be men who act stereotypically lesbian but aren't women?

Anonymous said...

QU, the transguy scenario was the first thing I thought of when I heard the term, too. There are apparently bio-males who self-identify as male lesbian. This seems to be because they tend to have many more feminine qualities than other "typical straight" males and so, when they are in a relationship with a woman, it could seem like there are two feminine personalities together, which could theoretically mimic a lesbian relationship. Granted, the whole scenario relies on traditional gender role stereotypes and a whole bunch of other flawed theories, but the term still exists and apparently is used in today's society. There are some interesting entries for this on "Urban Dictionary".

Queers United said...

That's cool so they are sort of androgynous bio males than?

Anonymous said...

There's another word for straight men who are "have a strong physical attraction towards lesbian, bisexual women, and to the queer female scene"--ANY STRAIGHT MAN. Guess why all straight porn has women having fake/forced orgasms (at least it looks that way) while perform sex acts on other women? As a bi woman, one of my exes and I used to watch straight porn together. I did not enjoy the f on f scenes because they were so cheesy and fake looking and so obviously for the enjoyment of men. I have no idea if the women on there are LB or what, but they don't seem to be enjoying themselves. And when sleazy straight guys find out I'm bi, guess what's the first thing they want to know all about?

You Oughtta Know said...

straight guys that are turned on by lesbians? Its called typical, delusional straight male thinking. This is nothing new kid. Its the same thinking that gave us jello and mud wrestling.

paz-kid said...

Then again, a lot of straight women are turned on by gay guys too. Kissing or sexing or whatever, depending on what they're into. And that's not real 'guy-on-guy' depicted porn either. Just wanted to point that out.

I'm guessing a guydyke would be the equivalent of a girlfag, maybe? And I thought a male lesbian was a guy who literally was attracted to lesbians and thought of himself as a lesbian but didn't ID as a transwoman.

Anonymous said...

Oh, and yes, it's considered equivalent to girlfag.

Anonymous said...

Well, I consider myself a guydyke (among many other sexual and gender labels I have for myself, since I think I and most people in general are far to complex for just one label). But one thing I don't consider myself is a straight guy--I don't really consider myself much of a guy at all. But I do think guydyke is a fun post-modern label that is somewhat humorous, though I can definitely see how it could possibly include a bunch of scum-bags (something I don't consider myself--I'm pretty involved in anarcha-feminist and queer activism and theory). Anyway, I'm male-bodied and identify as genderqueer and transgender (possibly transsexual). I present as and typically pass as a woman and although I am ok with anything, I prefer to be referred to with female or neutral pronouns. I'm still trying to figure out if I want hormones, and possibly bottom surgery (just started therapy for it a couple weeks ago). I identify as pansexual because I'm open to all kinds of gender and sexual expressions, but I am most attracted to queer sexual and gender presentations, and especially those related to either female-bodied or feminine-gendered folks (so basically lesbians, trans and genderqueer people of pretty much any stripe, and some really femmy gay guys). But I mainly tend to like queer women (bi, lesbian, etc).

Anonymous said...

I think the proper term is "Lesbro"

Anonymous said...

Well, I consider myself a guydyke. I've always craved the company of girls since I was quite young. I had a crush on a girl in the first grade, well actually kindergarten, I liked my teacher. I never liked hanging out with guys, and HATED the way men treated women. Ive only been in a handfull of relationships which are usually ended her cause straight girla just dont get the way I act, or I end it because I know that although she really likes me it just doesnt feel right. I knew a a friend of mine was a lesbian, one time when she was quite drunk she said I was the only guy she had ever met that could turn her straight. While this turned me on it turned me off more, I didnt want to try to turn her straight that just wouldnt be right.

Anonymous said...

Im continuing the above post. Anyways that was a few years ago and I have just figured myself out, I wish I would have known I was this way then we might have had a good time or not I really just enjoyed hanging out with her and probably wouldn't have wanted to mess that up. Its also been really difficult for me lately because there isnt anywhere nearby to meet people(thank you so much conservative bible belt) and if I did meet someone I liked they probably wouldnt like me Im 6ft6 and about 220. Like the other day I saw a really cute black girl, but it wasnt her looks I saw first, it was her unshaved legs! I appologized for staring at her but told her I really liked girls with unshaved legs bashfully. She just hit me playfully, laughed and walked away. The only way I can explain how she made me feel was that she made my mind WET! I hope I see her again.

Anonymous said...

Wrong! I'm a guydyke, and I'm certainly not the same as a straight man who is turned on by the idea of watching/joining in with two lesbians making love. I've always felt that I should have been born a biological female; but that if I was, I'd still be attracted solely to women. I'm sexually passive, so I guess I'm a FEMME. It's taken me thirty years to suss out why I felt wrong trying to chat up/make love to women in a straight male way; it was only when I became aware of Dr Gilmartin's research on love-shy men that I realised that the explanation might be more complicated than I thought. My internal gender-identity (female) was so natural to me that I never regarded it as an issue, or paid it much attention.... now I wish I had, a lot earlier.

Anonymous said...

I have to say, I liked "Lesbro". SWIM is pretty much only attracted to lesbian women, really identifies with lesbian culture etc. and pretty much as a lesbian ideentifies as being male, rather than trans female. Confusing, but not impossible. Guydykes don't HAVE to be trans to identify as being lesbian.

Richie said...

I am a guydyke odd thing is most straight women I meet or see either have a ring on their finger or a man already..maybe it is a good thing I am a guydyke..

GrrrlRomeo said...

I don't have a problem with lesbian-identified males. But I do have a problem with the terminology "guydyke" and "girlfag" because dyke and fag are terms that have been used by straight society to marginalize gays and lesbians. Only the targets of such terms have the right to reclaim them.

Lesbro, by the way, is what butch lesbian friends call each other.

Anonymous said...

I definitely fit more with women than men. I'm 28 now and lived with being labeled gay and called a fag all of my life despite not being attracted to men. Even many my most respectful friends, and my mother have asked me if I was gay. I didn't know what I was for a long time, but I knew I wasn't attracted to men.

I don't want to throw around the word male-lesbian attention or to upset anybody... This is who I am.

Anonymous said...

why does everyone think that is so wrong. I mean isn't that a bit sexist if lesbians won't let men in? Just because some are flaming doesn't mean there gay

Anonymous said...

it's not just physical attraction, but also romantic attraction.
i know.

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