tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post1742112918020585871..comments2024-02-26T02:02:51.364-05:00Comments on Queers United: Open Forum: The Bisexual/Bi-Racial OverlapQueers Unitedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05074493276489593816noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-78362084295248412532009-04-14T20:35:00.000-04:002009-04-14T20:35:00.000-04:00Anthony, rather than worrying whether bisexuals "p...Anthony, rather than worrying whether bisexuals "prove" that you can choose to be straight or gay (you CAN'T), perhaps your energy would be better spent educating people that sexuality is not a choice and that the vast majority of humanity resides somewhere between the two extremes of the Kinsey scale. The best course to secure LGBT rights is to simply get the truth out there. That truth is that human sexuality falls along a continuum between heterosexual and homosexual and all points along that spectrum are normal and should be accepted.<br /><br />Those trying to deny the existence of bisexuality for political expediency or trying to buy their rights at the expense of ours, are not only dishonest, but immoral. And any movement based on a lie is ultimately doomed to failure, and deservedly so.<br /><br />By the way, regarding your "thing" - I've identified as bisexual for 38 years now and have been happily married to a wonderful woman for almost 31 of them. But I am still, and always will be, bisexual, not straight or gay. I have nothing against the other two options - it's just who I am.Franknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-2312424874160191872009-04-14T18:19:00.000-04:002009-04-14T18:19:00.000-04:00Anon - co sign...everything pretty much. Damn thos...Anon - co sign...everything pretty much. Damn those biseckshuals making life complicated and shit.<br /><br />Anthony - saying that bi-racial people are probably more accepted than bisexuals is...really...really confusing and problematic. And when I say confusing and problematic I mean I have no idea what you were even going for.T. R Xandshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12142370339947719352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-60064998205723562112009-04-14T10:33:00.000-04:002009-04-14T10:33:00.000-04:00You're right -- reality is complex. It is not abo...You're right -- reality is complex. It is not about my comfort level with bisexual people -- clearly they exist and after reading several articles over the last couple of weeks I'm starting to think there are more bisexuals than gays. <br /><br />I was speaking more in terms of why people have issues with bi people. My "thing" with bisexuals is in terms of relationships, unless it's a 3 way relationship where partners of both genders are involved, they're living either as gay or straight. That is why I feel some look at bisexuals as proving that you can choose to be gay or straight.Anthony in Nashvillenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-15545834574603696662009-04-14T08:15:00.000-04:002009-04-14T08:15:00.000-04:00Gosh, I'm sorry that we bisexuals complicate your ...Gosh, I'm sorry that we bisexuals complicate your politics and confuse you, Anthony, but reality is like that sometimes. The only choice that I have "ultimately" made is to acknowledge that I am, and alway will be, bisexual. I have no intention of pretending that I don't exist for the sake of increasing your comfort level with your "sexuality is a choice/ is immutable" problem. There are millions of us who identify as bisexual - perhaps it's time you put politics aside and accepted that fact.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-34314123112409591582009-04-13T13:24:00.000-04:002009-04-13T13:24:00.000-04:00Where I can see a similarity between the two issue...Where I can see a similarity between the two issues is the sense that people who have that background ultimately have to make a choice as to how they will identify.<BR/><BR/>It may not be fair, but people like labels and it's confusing to have someone claim multiple identities. <BR/><BR/>I think society is closer to being more accepting of bi-racial people than bisexual. There are too many complicated political issues, particularly the "sexuality is a choice/ is immutable" argument, raised by bisexuals.Anthony in Nashvillenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-71166841635739393522009-04-12T14:01:00.000-04:002009-04-12T14:01:00.000-04:00I think your blog is spot on and I'm surprised the...I think your blog is spot on and I'm surprised there hasn't been more comment. Bisexuals truly don't fit in the either/or dichotomy and struggle against perceptions that they must "choose" - and that if they do choose, the bisexuality was a phase on the way to discovering true identity. Here's hoping for the day when our culture can move away from the assumptions that force people into such boxes, whether by race or by sexual orientatin.Adrianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01628092657976031124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-15273746698845934432009-04-11T09:53:00.000-04:002009-04-11T09:53:00.000-04:00I'd love to hear thoughts on this subject matter. ...I'd love to hear thoughts on this subject matter. I find the parallel fascinating.Queers Unitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05074493276489593816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-73623570311525595682008-09-16T11:01:00.000-04:002008-09-16T11:01:00.000-04:00I was curious to hear from people but I guess this...I was curious to hear from people but I guess this post didn't elicit much thought. I thought it was interesting, oh well.Queers Unitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05074493276489593816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-78603506416298871172008-09-15T12:53:00.000-04:002008-09-15T12:53:00.000-04:00I don't really see it, but I suppose that I just n...I don't really see it, but I suppose that I just never gave much thought to my racial identity. I usually put "other."<BR/>Race isn't really a big issue for me in my excessively sheltered environment, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-83142012170956322532008-09-14T07:11:00.000-04:002008-09-14T07:11:00.000-04:00I wrote my thesis on the subject of construction o...I wrote my thesis on the subject of construction of identity. While I mostly focused on cultural and ethnic identities, I think I made brief mention of sexual identity. I wish I'd had this post to read when I was starting out!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-37233367549326938282008-09-13T10:19:00.000-04:002008-09-13T10:19:00.000-04:00YES! Definitely.Thanks for this post. Nothing to s...YES! Definitely.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for this post. Nothing to say concretely, yet, but I am so interested in what others will say.<BR/><BR/>(bi/bi, myself)seitzkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16383559351073204534noreply@blogger.com