tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post9005737577039259392..comments2024-02-26T02:02:51.364-05:00Comments on Queers United: Eight Words and Phrases to Avoid in LGBT CommunicationsQueers Unitedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05074493276489593816noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-80638466907931606762009-09-11T04:33:03.272-04:002009-09-11T04:33:03.272-04:00Her fashion is so bizarre she was probably wearing...Her fashion is so bizarre she was probably wearing a strap-on underneath her panties.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-61892535940428816832009-08-08T00:45:41.485-04:002009-08-08T00:45:41.485-04:00As John Corvino says, it's not a lifestyle, it...As John Corvino says, it's not a lifestyle, it's a life. <br /><br />I always counter the choice people with the fact that I no more chose to be gay than they did to be 'straight'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-43022502162110518112009-08-07T23:19:53.504-04:002009-08-07T23:19:53.504-04:00I hate the word homosexual because it defines who ...I hate the word homosexual because it defines who we are entirely by genital sex. Being gay involves so much more than that! If sex didn;t exist, I'd still be gay. It especially allows anti-gay people to discount our lives as valid. It may be "clinically correct", but being gay is not a clinical condition.MAJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03022849949483770384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-85554065606211861642009-08-07T20:09:04.809-04:002009-08-07T20:09:04.809-04:00In regards to "anon" above: Not knowing ...In regards to "anon" above: Not knowing whether two people are more than friends or not is not the issue here. My fiancee's father has referred to me more than once, as her "friend." He KNOWS we're together, and he KNOWS we're more than friends. But she still tends to hear, "How's your friend doing?" That is when it's disrespectful and a no-no.Amy K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01731056254476935306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-17524256841322514382009-08-07T18:50:25.694-04:002009-08-07T18:50:25.694-04:00Thank you so much for this. I personally can't...Thank you so much for this. I personally can't stand the words "friend" or "tolerance" in that context. <br /><br />But for the life of me, "homosexual?" That's not offensive. You're right, its clinical. It means "gay". It's counterparts are "heterosexual" and "bisexual", neither of which are offensive in the least. <br /><br />I agree though, its annoying when people use it as a stand in for LGBT.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-78846843755824266742009-08-07T17:27:41.261-04:002009-08-07T17:27:41.261-04:00I'll never get why people post comments then r...I'll never get why people post comments then run off claiming they'll be flamed *rolls eyes* I really don't care...<br /><br />But thank you for this. I admit I use "friend" myself occasionally if I'm not sure about someone's relationship, but it is weird to refer to someone's partner as just their "friend". Now that I think about it it's downright condescending. Still using "alternative lifestyle" just fails though, wow.T. R Xandshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12142370339947719352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-60752453285477687872009-08-07T15:51:04.880-04:002009-08-07T15:51:04.880-04:00Thank you for this--it's a reference item!
I ...Thank you for this--it's a reference item!<br /><br />I love that the term "friend" was included. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it so damn much!<br /><br />To "anonymous" above me, I understand it in a social setting among strangers as you describe. I do not understand it when it is in, say, a newspaper profile, where one would hope that the interviewer got to know her/his subject a little bit. <br /><br />It is derogatory when you know damn good and well what the person in question is to another. Imagine, please, having your beloved wife or girlfriend--the one you would kill or die for--referred to as your "um, friend" by someone who you've just told about her. If you'd appreciate that kind of treatment, I pity you and your, um, friend....I mean, your wife or girlfriend.CrackerLilohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18176388186521154104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-70930930172811349582009-08-07T15:29:32.679-04:002009-08-07T15:29:32.679-04:00"friend" is an overreaction. It's a..."friend" is an overreaction. It's a common term whether you're gay, straight, or martian. In my family (and most of the families I know) if I were to bring home a girl the first question would always be, "Who's your friend?" If a girl called me, the statement would be, "Your friend called." This is because while it's somewhat awkward to call a girlfriend a friend, it is significantly more awkward to call a friend a girlfriend. (You can reverse genders for males if you happen to enjoy having sex with the buggers, I for one do not.)<br /><br />I understand that maybe you didn't realize that this is just a fairly common method of avoiding awkwardness when you really just don't quite know what the relationship between two people is and considered it a derogatory term against you and your partner, but it's really not.<br /><br />I don't expect you to change your mind, however. I suspect I'll get raccuously flamed for having an alternate point of view, but then again I suppose that's why the term "tolerance" is now out of favor. Cheers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-11399616101410495932009-08-07T13:57:58.305-04:002009-08-07T13:57:58.305-04:00I GET SICK OF PEOPLE USING THE LIFESTYLE ONE, I HE...I GET SICK OF PEOPLE USING THE LIFESTYLE ONE, I HEAR THAT ALL THE TIME....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-77747531909727388342009-08-07T13:27:42.233-04:002009-08-07T13:27:42.233-04:00The one that gets me still is referring to someone...The one that gets me still is referring to someone as "a gay." Using gay as a noun puts so much emphasis on the person's orientation that we lose the identity as a person.Not Importanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18307127026012212518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-974727160032414722009-08-07T13:07:55.518-04:002009-08-07T13:07:55.518-04:00Could You come back with the list of "good th...Could You come back with the list of "good things to say" ? <br />Knowing what not to do is 1/2 way there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3451574857665049482.post-27282048369237846922009-08-07T12:38:13.510-04:002009-08-07T12:38:13.510-04:00I have never liked the tolerance term. In schools...I have never liked the tolerance term. In schools, there was a whole "Teach Tolerance" campaign for years. I felt that was teaching inherent superiority feelings, i.e. you must tolerate others.<br /><br />From a Buddhist foundation, I believe we should be teaching and living equanimity. Equal beings, equal rights. <br /><br />Namasté,<br />Marilyn FreemanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com