Word of the Gay: "Heterophobia"

"Heterophobia" - The irrational fear or aversion to heterosexual people.

There are a limited number of hate crimes against heterosexual people by homosexual people based on sexual orientation, but there have been a few instances. In heavily LGBT neighborhoods there have been some isolated cases of harassment against straight people.

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Alternate use of the term:
"Heterophobia" has also been used by more conservative LGBT circles who are opposed to the traditional gay rights platform. They use the term to imply that extending equal rights to LGBT people is tantamount to discrimination against heterosexual people.

The term has been used by conservative circles who feel that when more liberal groups target them by calling them homophobic based on their positions that they can counter that liberal LGBT groups are being so called "heterophobic".

Asexual Pride Graphics

I have created a listing of Asexual Pride graphics for Asexuals & Allies to show support and create awareness about the Asexual Community.

Click here for Asexual Pride Graphics.

The reason the graphics are on a seperate entry is because it would lag the main page and make it difficult for readers. So surf over there and start decorating, post links to your decorated pages!

Lesbian Couple Discriminated Against at Safeco Stadium

According to Outsports:

"Two lesbians who kissed at a Seattle Mariners baseball game at Safeco Field said they were told to stop and are claiming discrimination based on sexual orientation.

The security guard said ‘there’s a lady whose son says he saw you guys making out, and I did, too. And you have to stop.’ Guerrero (the lesbian) said ‘well, we weren’t making out, but we were kissing and I’m not going to stop.”

The couple stayed at the game and then took pictures of men and women kissing without them being asked to stop. The Mariners are investigating the incident."

Contact Mariners (Safeco Field)

*Photo courtsey of thatsparklychick's on Creative Commons.

New York Recognizes Out of State Same-Sex Marriages

Thanks to the leadership of Governor David Patterson, New York State will recognize out of state Same-Sex Marriages within New York. (CNN)

Please contact the Governor to thank him for his leadership on the issue and commitment to equal rights for the LGBTQ community.

E-Contact Form for Governor Paterson

To Write To The Governor:
David A. Paterson
State Capitol
Albany, NY 12224

Phone: 518-474-8390

TAKE ACTION: Dubai Police Harass Transgender Population

According to SeaQWa:

"DUBAI -- Calling it part of an "awareness campaign", police in Dubai have arrested several men and women for cross-dressing.

Police claim the arrests are part of a campaign aimed mostly at young people to preserve the social values of the cosmopolitan Gulf Arab trade and tourism hub, newspapers reported on Monday. "

Please take action by contacting the Dept. of Tourism, tell them you will boycott the country and demand they take action to protect LGBT (it's probably best to spell out the acronym for them) citizens.
Click here for Feedback Form!

Clovis Superintendent Apologizes for Lesbian Couple's Photo's in Yearbook!

"Clovis Schools Superintendent Rhonda Seidenwurm on Tuesday apologized to parents and residents offended by the inclusion of lesbian couples in the 2008 high school yearbook.

She took full responsibility for not reinstating a policy that gives school officials oversight of the yearbook. She said the school will put in a policy providing more oversight on the yearbook next year."

(CNJ Online)

This is absurd that the school is trying to censor the yearbook and it is queerphobic that LGBT students would not be able to have their lives displayed.

Email Dr. Rhonda Seidenwurm the Superintendent of Clovis Municipal Schools District:
rhondas@clovis-schools.org

OH Congressman Jeff Wagner Spews Out Hate

According to Pam's Houseblend:

"Jeff Wagner, a Republican who represents the 81st district in Ohio. Said he believes that "same-sex committed relationships lead to mental and physical illness". When a constituent asked about H.B. 502, the "Equal Housing and Employment Act", that would cover LGBTs, this is what Wagner said via email (spelling and grammar intact):

"This is a dangerous and misguided bill. The bill is not really about people being denied rights to basic needs, but it is about promoting acceptance of an immoral lifestyle. As much as some people would have us to believe otherwise, this country was founded on Christian principles. One of those long honored principles is the tradition of holy matrimony. One man and one woman joined together in a union that goes as far back as Adam and Eve. As our society has gotten further from that standard (not just homosexuality, but easy divorce, cheating on a spouse, etc.) we see a continued collapse of the basic building block of society the family unit. As that traditional family erodes, we see more sexually transmitted diseases, kids without parents, heartbroken people and I believe a host of mental and physical illnesses. . . . rest assured I can not support a bill in any way promotes or encourages the homosexual lifestyle."

Address:
77 S. High St
12th Floor
Columbus, OH 43215-6111
Telephone: (614) 466-1374
Fax : (614) 719-6981

Email Address: district81@ohr.state.oh.us

Open Forum: "Straight Acting"

We have all done it, know someone who does it, or have varying understandings of what the term means. "Straight Acting" is when a Queer person is not exhibiting any mannerisms that appear to fit an LGBTQ stereotype. For example a gay man who tries to fit in by avoiding seeming effeminate, or a lesbian who tries to avoid seeming overtly masculine.

"Straight Acting" is a controversial and deeply divisive topic, especially among gay/bisexual men where femininity is seen as weakness. Society divides us into gender roles and any variation from it is seen as taboo. This goes back to our earlier discussion on Gay Assimilationists versus Queer Liberationists. Some may see trying to fit in as a good thing, while others may see this as a false attempt to deny ones true identity. Others may feel it is essential for safety and security purposes to cover up their identity.

In his newly released book "Straight Acting" by Angelo Pezzote he says:

"In the struggle to come out, we can experience two conflicting drives - the important need to belong, and the equally important need to be our true selves. We may get caught up in the catch-22 of conforming to belong, while being our authentic selves. We may be out, but we may also elect to conform, at times diminishing the signals that we're gay - to play it more mainstream".

People use the term "Straight Acting" in an effort to differentiate themselves from the broader gay community and culture, they identify themselves as same-sex attracted but otherwise just regular ordinary citizens.

Others are deeply offended by this terminology because it conveys that a so called gay stereotype exists and that perhaps flamboyancy, gender-variation, or gay culture are somehow inherently wrong.
Mr. Pezzote discusses how he believes that this term is representative of Gay Shame.

"In such an inhospitable climate, many gays themselves ingest that being gay is not a good thing. If I feed a plant poisoned water, it can't help but absorb some of the poison. We, too, take in toxic ideas about being gay from our polluted cultural environment. The way we see ourselves is part a reflection of how we think others see us".

Further, not all heterosexuals are the same which begs to question what "Straight Acting" really is.

What do you think about "Straight Acting" is this good or bad for the community, are you indifferent? Or, perhaps are you a "Straight" actor yourself?

Word of the Gay: "Heterosexual Privilege"

"Heterosexual Privilege: The societal assumption and norm that all people are heterosexual. The basic civil rights and social privileges that a heterosexual person automatically receives, that are systematically denied to gay, lesbian, or bisexual persons, simply because of their sexual orientation." (H/T)

Rally for South Carolina Gay-Straight Alliance

According to Gay Charleston:

"There will be a rally at 6 p.m. Tuesday at Dutch Fork Elementary School in Irmo, to show support for Irmo High School’s Gay Straight Alliance. The rally will be outside the district school board meeting.

Irmo Principal Eddie Walker announced last week that he would be resigning at the end of the next school year because the district is allowing the GSA to form. District officials have said their hands are tied because of equal access requirements.

Gay advocates are calling for Walker to leave now, suggesting that his continued administration at the school after such a high-profile proclamation that he can’t support the club could incite the type of dangerous environment that GSAs are looking to stop."

Dutch Fork Elementary School
7900 Broad River Rd
Irmo, SC 29063

ACTION: Contact Congress this Memorial Day!

This Memorial Day contact your representatives and senators urging for a repeal of the Don't Ask Don't Tell Policy which bars gays/lesbians from serving openly in the military.

Organizations working for a repeal of "DADT" and serving LGBT servicemembers and veterans:

*Service Members Legal Defense Network
*American Veterans for Equal Rights
*HRC's "Legacy of Service"
*The Gay Military Times

Word of the Gay: "Lambda"

Originally a Greek letter chosen to represent a campaign for gay liberation that has gone onto become an international symbol of gay/lesbian rights. The lambda represents energy in physics and is also symbolic of the power and energy of the gay rights movement. Others suggest the symbol is reflectant of the fact that Queer people operate on a different "wavelength". It is now seen as a symbol of unity and pride, and frequently used in Queer Theory and academic circles.

Equality Maine Needs Our Help!

Action Alert from Equality Maine:

"On Tuesday, June 10th, primary voters will be asked to sign a petition supporting a referendum that would strip basic protections from LGBT Mainers and their families.

Voters have every right to sign that petition. But we want them to know what they're really signing: a measure that would

* Erase all the non-discrimination protections we've fought so hard to win
* End funding for school civil rights teams, which have played a vital role in combating harassment of all kinds
* Prohibit unmarried couples from jointly adopting, a move that would threaten the best interest of children

We also want to offer a better choice for fair-minded Mainers to sign: a statement of support for equality for all people in this state.

Help EqualityMaine build a presence at hundreds of polling places around Maine. Volunteer with us on June 10th.

Because if enough voters sign that petition, we'll face another anti-equality referendum battle in November 2009.

Every hour you can give on primary day will make a difference. Email our field organizer, Matt Moonen, at mmoonen@equalitymaine.org by May 30 to sign up. He'll get back to you with more information about volunteer training and scheduling."

Shameless Self Promotion Sunday

I got this idea by reading the Feminist blog Feministe and figured it might be fun to try it out here.

Please share any Queer or Queer related topics you have blogged about or found of interest during the week.

Take Action: Voice Support for California Same-Sex Marriage Ruling

California Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger is taking feedback on the "hot button" issue of the California Supreme Court Ruling favoring same-sex marriage.

It's a simple, easy automated call, you don't need to speak to anyone.

To vote in support of the Supreme Court's decision on LGBT marriage:

1. Call the Governor at 1-916-445-2841
2. Press 1, 5, 1, 1

Email form:
http://gov.ca.gov/interact#email(Click email tab and select "Supreme Court decision on Same Sex Marriage". On the next screen you must click PRO).

Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger
State Capitol Building
Sacramento, CA 95814

The Rainbow is not Shining in Alabama

According to Sweet Homo Alabama:

"Birmingham, Ala. Mayor Larry Langford has denied a request by the board of Central Alabama Pride to issue a city wide proclamation marking the city’s annual gay pride celebration.
Organizers of the event sent an Email to the mayor’s office requesting the proclamation and received a reply on Wednesday. The response from the mayor is as follows:

“I have received your request for a proclamation celebrating Gay Pride Week. While I do not personally ascribe to any form of discrimination, I believe it is not the role of local governments to condone, endorse or support the personal lifestyle choices of its citizens.”

The proclamation has usually been issued by the mayor’s office each year to be printed in the guide handed out to pride participants."

Feel free to call or mail the mayor with your thoughts on his refusal to issue a proclamation, allow banners on city property, or grant the parade permit...

Birmingham City Hall
710 20th Street North
Birmingham, Alabama 35203-2216

Phone: 205-254-2277 FAX: 205-254-2926

Tell Wal-Mart to Add Gender Identity/Expression to its Non-Discrimination Policy

According to Pam's Houseblend:

The board of Wal-Mart is urging stockholders to vote against the upcoming proposal number 4 which would add gender identity/expression to the companies non-discrimination policy. The board insists Wal-Mart is a leader when it comes to diversity and see no need to implement a change in current policy.

Take action by contacting Wal-Mart to add protections for gender variant people.

Contact Form: http://walmartstores.com/contactus/feedback.aspx

Phone: (1-800-WALMART)

Address:
Wal-Mart Stores, Inc.
Attn: Customer Service
702 S.W. 8th Street
Bentonville, AR 72716

"Right to Serve" Preparing to Protest DADT

UPDATE: Here is the official website for the tour beginning tomorrow. http://harvardrighttoserve.org/index.php

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"A groundbreaking bus tour protesting Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, “Right to Serve” is an LGBT event in which everyone devoted to true equality—gay or straight, open or closeted, liberal or conservative—can participate. The day after finals end, students from Harvard College and the various graduate schools will embark on a weeklong journey that will highlight the injustice of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. The bus tour will make four stops across the country; and at each stop, one openly gay Harvard student will attempt to enlist for military service. When their desire to serve is rejected, participants on the tour will sit-in at the recruitment station to highlight the injustice of denying a citizen the right to serve based solely on their sexual orientation."

For more information, contact Jarret at president@harvarddems.com

When: Sat, May 24 at 5:00 pm to Sat, May 31 at 5:00 pm

http://harvarddems.com/node/3569

Word of the Gay: "Two-Spirit"

"Two-Spirit"-This is a term to refer to third-gendered people.

Traditionally it referred to Native Americans who embraced both genders.

Today many Native Americans as well as others identify with this duality of masculine and feminine spirits within their bodies.

Congressman Broun Vows to Fight for Federal Marriage Ban

According to 365Gay:

"Republican Congressman Paul Broun has announced plans to reintroduce an amendment to the US Constitution to bar same-sex marriage.

Broun (R-Ga) said the California Supreme Court ruling recognizing same-sex marriage has made it an imperative to reign in what he called "activist judges".

"My amendment will preserve the original intent of the drafters of the Constitution, by ensuring that no state or federal judge can take it upon themselves to suddenly discover a right to homosexual marriage within the text of the document," Broun said in a statement."

I am not too optimistic we can change his mind but feel free to voice your concern and opposition to his proposed amendment...

http://broun.house.gov/contact.shtml

Open Forum: "Outing" as an Activist Tactic?

"Outing" is when someone discloses someone's sexual orientation, when that person has chosen to keep their sexuality a secret. There are those in favor of outing who believe it is morally acceptable to disclose this information if the person (usually in a position of power such as a religious or political figure) speak out against and are damaging to the LGBT community. There are others who believe that anyone who is closeted is ultimately damaging the Queer community, by not being open about who they are, and so they seek to make the public aware of their truth. Those against "outing" feel it is an invasion of privacy and that people are entitled to live their lives in the closet if they so choose.

As with all controversial topics there are a wide range of opinions. What do you think? Is Outing ever OK? Is it helpful or hurtful to the Queer Lib movement?

Keep up the Pressure on Jamaican Government

Prime Minister Bruce Golding of Jamaica has announced he would not allow gay people to be part of his cabinet. This is part of a continuing campaign by the Jamaican government to ostracize and endanger the lives of LGBT citizens. The hate crimes in Jamaica are staggering with several gay people murdered and beaten annually. There is rampant homophobia in the culture, throughout musical lyrics, and hate spewing from religious as well as political authorities.

Please contact government officials and tell them you will be boycotting Jamaican tourism and goods, and demand that they enact laws safeguarding their LGBT citizens.

The following link enables you to send an email to the Prime Minister, his cabinet, the Ministry of Tourism, and other important officials.

Click Here to Contact Government Officials!

Action Alert to Support Family Values!

"GLBT Americans pay federal taxes like everyone else, yet they don't qualify for the basic federal protections that married couples and their children can count on. It's blatantly unequal.

GLBT people work hard to provide for their families. Tell Congress that the assets, health, jobs and rights of GLBT people deserve equal protection under the law.

* The Domestic Partnership Benefits Obligations Act (H.R. 4838, S. 2521)
* Tax Equity for Health Plan Beneficiaries (H.R. 1820, S. 1556)
* Family and Medical Leave Act (H.R. 2792)

These three bills bring together a pro-family, pro-equality legislative agenda that seeks to secure equal treatment under federal law for GLBT individuals, same-sex couples, and their children."

Fill out this fast & simple form to contact your elected officials, click here

Word of the Gay: 'mo foe

'mo foe: someone who is against the gay community or gay rights. A play on words, 'mo being short for homosexual and also implying that those who harbor anti-gay sentiments are mother fuckers (mofo's) as the slang goes.

I could be wrong and please correct me if so, but I believe Jeremy Hooper over at Good As You is the originator of the term.

Homophobe Greg Gutfeld of Fox News at it Again

It was not long ago that we reported and had a call to action based on Mr. Gutfeld's transphobic remarks on his show Red Eye over the Pregnant Trans-man story.

Well the jerk is at it again, this time making homophobic remarks over Ellen DeGeneres announcement of her plans to marry long time partner Portia de Rossi on her daytime talk show in light of California Supreme Court's pro same-sex marriage ruling.



Contact Fox News and Red Eye and tell them to stop their Homophobia!

Email: redeye@foxnews.com

Phone Fox News: 1-888-369-4762

LOGO's "New Now Next Awards" Honoring the Best of LGBT Pop Culture

I got an email from LOGO the LGBT cable TV channel asking me to put this up, I love LOGO so I am happy to give them a shout for their upcoming program...

"LOGO's proud to be hosting the first-ever NewNowNext Awards on Saturday, June 7, 2008 at 9:00 PM ET/PT. The event will be hosted by Candis Cayne (of ABC's Dirty Sexy Money) and will feature a number of special guests and performers including Janet Jackson, who will accept the Always Next, Forever Now award. Unlike other awards shows, LOGO will be highlighting the best of LGBT pop culture across all mediums, including the web, film, television and music. Don't get LOGO? Watch the show online right here, with commentary from our own John Polly, as well as other special guests and shenanigans."

Frequently Asked Questions about Same-Sex Marriage in California

I came across this great informative article on Lesbian Life:

"Answers to Your Questions About California and Gay Marriage

Now that the highest court in California has deemed that the state must allow gay marriages, you probably have a lot of questions about what that means. Here are the answers to some frequently asked questions about California's gay marriage law.

I was married in San Francisco in in 2004. Is my marriage legal now?
No. Those marriages were nullified in 2004.

When can gays and lesbians get married in California?
The California Supreme Court ruled that banning gay and lesbian couples from marrying is unconstitutional on May 15, 2008. The court gave 30 days for the state to begin marrying same-sex couples, so by June 16, 2008, gays and lesbians will be able to marry in California.

We have a California Domestic Partnership, do we need to dissolve that before we can be married?
No.

What's the difference between a California Domestic Partnership and Marriage?
You can be married to the same person you have a domestic partnership with. (Not someone else.) Having both can't hurt.

I live in another state, can I be married in California?
Yes. There is no residency requirement to get married in California

Will my California marriage be recognized in my home state?
Most likely not. Most states have bans on gay marriage. Your California marriage will probably be recognized in states that recognize gay marriage, which as of this writing is Massachusetts and New York.

Will the federal government recognize California same-sex marriages?
No. Because of the federal Defense of Marriage Act only marriages between a man and a woman are recognized by the federal government. This means married gay couples cannot not file joint federal tax returns, sponsor their spouse for immigration purposes or receive federal benefits such as Social Security.

Can the ruling be overturned?
The only way the ruling can be overturned is by an amendment to California's constitution. Anti-gay groups have all ready been collecting signatures to try and put a measure on the November 2008 ballot that would amend the state constitution.

What will happen to the married couples if that measure passes?
The California attorney general's office says the issue is unclear. What will probably happen is the issue will be fought out in the legal system."

Gambia's President Declares War on Gay Community

According to Pink News:

"Gay men and lesbians must leave the country within 24 hours or face "serious consequences," the President of Gambia said on Thursday.

President Yahya Jammeh turned on homosexuals and foreigners in an address at a victory celebration rally in Tallinding.

The Daily Observer reported that the President had issued:

"An ultimatum to homosexuals, drug dealers, thieves and other criminals, to leave The Gambia or face serious consequences if caught.

"The President equally warned all those who harbour such individuals to kick them out of their compounds, noting that a mass patrol will be conducted on the instructions of the IGP and the director of the Gambia Immigration Department to weed bad elements in society."

This is very disturbing, please contact the Gambian State House and voice your concern over these dangerous homophobic statements.

You can contact the government of Gambia here

Mailing Address:
Private Mail Bag
State House,
Banjul, The Gambia.

General Information Line: (220)-4223811
Secretary-General: (220)-4228917 or (220) 4228933
Chief of Protocol: (220)-4201530 or (220) 4200400
Director of Press/Public Relations: (220) 4223851

Support the Safe Schools Improvement Act

A new action alert has come out from the The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force:

"Across the country, communities are mourning the brutal murder of 15-year-old Lawrence King of California, who classmates say was killed because of his sexual orientation and gender expression. This tragic event reminds us of the importance of creating safe learning environments. We call on schools to honor King’s memory by using this as an opportunity to address violence and harassment directed at lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) students. Further, we call on Congress to enact strong anti-harassment and anti-bullying legislation.

U.S. Rep. Linda Sanchez (D-Calif.) has introduced the Safe Schools Improvement Act (H. R. 3132), which would promote bullying prevention efforts in schools across America. H. R. 3132 is vital to protecting America’s students in schools, but the bill needs more cosponsors in the House.

The Senate has included similar language to address bullying and harassment in the draft of No Child Left Behind reauthorization, sponsored by Sens. Edward Kennedy (D-Mass.) and Mike Enzi (R-Wyo). Senators, especially those on the Health, Education, Labor and Pension Committee, should support maintaining the language that will strengthen state and local efforts to prevent bullying and harassment through the Safe and Drug Free Schools and Communities Act.

Contact your members of Congress today and urge support for strong anti-bullying legislation."

Click Here to contact your representative

Click Here to contact your Senators

Organization Spotlight: Asexual Visibility and Education Network

"The Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) was founded in 2001 with two distinct goals: creating public acceptance and discussion of asexuality and facilitating the growth of an asexual community. Since that time we have grown to host the world’s largest asexual community, serving as an informational resource for people who are asexual and questioning, their friends and families, academic researchers and the press. AVEN members throughout the world regularly engage in visibility projects, included but not limited to distributing informational pamphlets, leading workshops, arranging local meetups and speaking to interested press. The AVEN community centers around the web forum, which provides a safe space for asexual and questioning people and their partners, friends and families to discuss their experiences."

http://www.asexuality.org/home/

MTV video on Asexuality and AVEN website!

• MTV
• Music Videos
• MTV Shows
• Entertainment News

Open Forum: Queer Liberationist or Gay Assimilationist?

There are two opposing political viewpoints when it comes to advocacy and than of course there are a variety of more moderate middleground opinions that fall in between the Queer Liberationists and Gay Assimilationist camps.

Gay Assimilationists - This ideology is to make gay/lesbian people seem like average, normal everyday citizens in the eyes of the general public. They want to make the case that gay families deserve equal rights and recognition and they want what everyone else wants: a house with a white picket fence and 2.5 kids. Some Gay Assimilationists are not inclusive of Bisexuals or Transgender people because they feel these groups hurt the gay rights movement. This is not the case for all Assimilationists and many seek to include all LGBT people and create a sense of assimilation into the general society. Gay Assimilationists often seek to advance their agenda through corporate sponsorships and see getting big business and government on their side as a way to advance equality. The assimilationists strive to paint the LGBT community as being no different than the heterosexual world and just want to fit in. They want the rights to marriage, the rights to adoption, to serve freely and openly in the military. Part of achieving these means, Gay Assimilationists seek to tone down the sexual aspect of gay pride, they feel that sexuality is one component of gay relationships and seek to emphasize much more the loving, financial, community, and faith based aspects of LGBT relationships.

Queer Liberationists - This camp of political theory views gender and sexuality in non-conformist ways. They do not apologize for the differences of Queer individuals and do not seek to "fit in". They embrace the idea of "We're Here, We're Queer, Get Used to it!" and believe society must change to accept them rather than they change to mold into hetero-normative society. Queer Liberationists are often but not always concerned with Queer issues as they relate not only to LGBT people but also to capitalism, anti-militarism, sexism, racism and other aspects of social justice. They are less concerned with same-sex marriage, adoption, and don't ask don't tell. Many times but not always they are against the institution of marriage altogether, feel gays are liberated from the idea of raising kids, and are against gays serving in the military because they are anti-military to begin with. Queer Liberationists often disagree with the idea of corporate partnerships and having big business and government intervene in LGBT issues. Queer Liberationists do not seek to hide their sexuality and gender expression, they seek to embrace it and encourage what has conventionally been frowned upon as inappropriate.

These are two diametrically opposed political camps. Most people have various opinions that don't fall so heavily into one party or the other. Where do you lie and what are your thoughts?

HRC Protests Over Lack of Trans-Inclusivity

According to TransGriot:

The following are some upcoming Human Rights Campaign events where transgender folks and allies who are upset over HRC's lack of trans-inclusiveness, and their lack of effort to include TG in the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) can protest...

HRC at the Mystics: Washington Mystics vs. Los Angeles Sparks
Saturday, May 31, 2008
Washington, DC

Trans-Unity Pride
Saturday, May 31, 2008
Los Angeles, CA

Ladies Spectacular at the WNBA Chicago Sky
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Chicago, IL

HRC Equalizers Softball Game
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Nashville, TN

HRC Night with the Indiana Fever
Saturday, June 7, 2008
Indianapolis , IN

2008 HRC Utah Gala Dinner
Saturday, June 14, 2008
Orem, UT

Save the Date, HRC Columbus Gala Dinner 2008
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Columbus, OH

Third Annual HRC Pride Cruise
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
New York, NY

2008 HRC Chicago Gala: Summer Chic
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Chicago, Il

2008 HRC San Francisco Bay Area Gala
Saturday, July 26, 2008
San Francisco, CA

3rd Annual HRC Dinner: Life, Liberty & Pursuit of Equality
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Las Vegas, NV

2008 Twin Cities Gala Dinner
Saturday, September 13, 2008
Minneapolis, MN

9th Annual Pacific Northwest Dinner
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Seattle, WA

2008 HRC National Dinner in Washington DC
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Washington, DC

27th Annual New England Gala Dinner
Saturday, October 25, 2008
Boston, MA

Annual HRC San Antonio Gala Dinner
Saturday, October 25, 2008
San Antonio, TX

Black Tie Dinner, Inc.'s 2008 Dallas/Ft. Worth Gala
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Dallas, TX

PRIDE Celebrations Around the World!

The weather is hot, the summer is here, and that means the Queers are out to show their true colors, pride, political aspirations, and to unite as a community.

That's right! LGBTQAI PRIDE month is coming up!

Here are some links to websites that list PRIDE parades and celebrations around the world... They are pretty detailed but there are some locations missing, so feel free to post if you know of a PRIDE event that has not been listed.

Gay Life - Parade Listings

Gay.com PRIDE Celebrations Listing

Word of the Gay: "Bisexual Erasure"

I decided to try something new, I don't know if I will post them daily but from time to time at least I'd like to showcase Queer terms/words so we can boost our rainbowlicious vocabulary. Is this something you readers are interested in?

"Bisexual Erasure" - This is the conscious or unconscious effort by individuals and groups to ignore, remove, or alter aspects of bisexuality in an effort to diminish the idea that bisexuality is a valid sexual orientation.

California Legalizes Gay Marriage!

The California Supreme Court has ruled that it is unconstitutional to deny gays and lesbians equal marriage rights. Gay.com Breaking News Headline!

This is a huge landmark for Queer civil rights in America and throughout the world! California courts are highly respected and set a national gold standard.

The battle still continues as this will now energize anti-gay activists to amend the state constitution to ban gay marriage, equality activists will have to battle these efforts. But, let us rejoice for now and let the party begin!

Petition to get Transphobic Docs Off the DSM - V Committee

As discussed earlier the American Psychiatric Committee is reviewing their policies and standards on issues such as "Gender Identity Disorder" among other topics. The newly published Diagnostic Statistical Manual will be released in 2012 and will have strong implications for how transgender people are treated in our society and by insurance companies and the medical establishment.

The current line up of "professionals" on the committee are unacceptable, with people like Mr. Zucker, and Mr. Blanchard who are transphobic, lack understanding, sensitivity and support "reparative therapy" for trans-folks.

Please sign the petition that is directed to the APA and cross-post, and email it to your address book to expedite the process...

http://www.thepetitionsite.com/petition/412001300

Protest Scheduled at Boy Scouts of America National Conference

Scouting for All will be protesting at the Boy Scouts of America National Conference to be held May 21-23, 2008.

Here are the details we know as of right now:

LOCATION
Manchester Grand Hyatt
1 Market Pl.
San Diego, California., 92101.
Hotel phone: 1-619-232-1234.

For further information contact Howard Menzer, Scouting for All SouthWestern Regional Director, Email: howmen@sbcglobal.net

We'd like to see a large gathering to protest along with us. We are protesting the BSA's national policy of discrimination, which excludes both the gay and atheist communities, adults and children.

Plan of Action for Anti-Queer/Anti-Feminist Phylis Schlafly

We reported on this story a while back, here are the details about the upcoming protest that students/faculty, alumni, and concerned activists can help take part in.

"School Recognition Ceremonies:

After consulting with faculty, we have decided to not wear our armbands at these individual ceremonies. Mrs. Schlafly will not be present at any of these ceremonies, and in the interest of maintaining some perspective on this issue, we wish to keep our protest limited to Commencement. So save up all of your protest passion for Friday morning.

Before Commencement: Mike Murphy (mjmurphy@wustl.edu) has volunteered to head up this effort, so specific logistical questions should be directed to him.

o If you are participating in the ceremony, either as a graduate, or faculty member: Come to the Women's Studies office in Busch Hall 225 at 7:00 a.m. You will be distributing flyers and armbands within your own school.
o If you are a part of the WU "community" (i.e. faculty, staff, student) but will not be participating in the ceremony meet in Busch Hall 225 at 7:00 a.m. You will be distributing flyers and armbands to parents and other visitors. We will have specific positions for you Friday morning.
o If you are not a part of the WU community we ask that you join the protest in a respectful manner in public/off campus areas. This is our graduation, and it means a lot to a lot of people, we don't want it to be disrupted for our colleagues and families.

During Commencement:

o Wear your armband. (and instruct others to do the same).
o [There have been suggestions to outline a specific plan for the "stand and turn" part, so this is a rough outline, but don't feel as if you must do exactly this] Give a standing ovation to the person who is being honored before Mrs. Schlafly (This should be Jessie L Ternberg). Continue standing and turn away from the stage as Mrs. Schlafly is being honored. When the next person is mentioned, please take a seat. Remember to be silent during this whole process.

* If you took armbands to cut and will not be passing them out on the morning of Commencement, please drop them off at the Women and Gender studies office (Busch 225). If the door is locked, just put them in front of the door. Otherwise, just bring them with you on Friday.

Any questions or if you want to sign up to help, e-mail NOschlaflydegree@gmail.com."

Further resources for action:

http://nohonorarydegree4schlafly.angelfire.com/index.html

1. Join the (Facebook Group), No honorary doctorate for anti-feminist Phyllis Schlafly, and ask others to join as well.

2. Contact and try to organize alumni. An emailer familiar with the situation has written that this is likely to be the most effective route, because money talks. The university does not want to alienate the one donor base they rely on most heavily.

3. Contact Chancellor Wrighton, Wrighton@wustl.edu.

4. Contact, Jane Stone, coordinator of the Board of Trustees: jane_stone@wustl.edu

*Photo courtesy of facebook group.

Organization Spotlight: Children of Lesbians & Gays Everywhere (COLAGE)

Here is a great resource for LGBTQAI parents, Children of LGBT parents (QueerSpawn) & Allies.

"COLAGE is a national movement of children, youth, and adults with one or more lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and/or queer (LGBTQ) parents. We build community and work toward social justice through youth empowerment, leadership development, education, and advocacy."

COLAGE is a great resource to connect with other Queer run families through local chapters throughout the country (There are 52 COLAGE chapters in the United States of America, 2 chapters in Canada, and one European chapter). They also offer pen-pal programs, and have many great articles, advocacy resources, workshops and information.

Check them out and support their efforts at http:/www.colage.org

Open Forum: (Free Speech) Where do We Draw the Line?

A few interesting and controversial headlines have popped up in the news and the gay blogosphere that raise some important questions. At what point is gay activism intruding upon free speech and freedom of expression rights? Freedom of speech and expression must be protected even for anti-gay forces, because if we don't have these basic freedoms it becomes a slippery slope and eventually we will not have the right to express our opinions.

I write this in light of some stories recently, such as a student who wore a t-shirt to school saying "Be Happy - Not Gay!" at a diversity event, who got in trouble. The courts have since ruled she is entitled to wear the shirt.

What about Crystal Dixon's case with the University of Toledo V.P. of Human Resources who outside the university wrote an opinion column denouncing homosexuality, claiming it is a choice. She has been fired under grounds that she mentioned she was a worker at the school and is now suing the school.

Finally there was the case at Smith College, where the College Republicans brought in Ryan Sorba who created a book called "The Born Gay Hoax" who spoke about bogus research regarding LGBT people. Students interrupted his anti-gay speech by screaming "We're Here, We're Queer, get used to it" the student protesters overwhelmed the room forcing Mr. Sorba to leave the campus and cancel his speech.

Youtube clip of the Smith protest:


What do you think about GLBT activism and where do we draw the line to ensure free speech rights, or is it okay to intrude upon the free speech of others when they seek to intrude on our civil liberties and spread falsehoods about our community?

Solidarity Rallies in New York, Chicago, and San Francisco for LGBT Russians

According to Petrelis Files:

"Gay activists in three U.S. cities will mobilize for vigils on May 16 and 17 for IDAHO, International Day Against Homophobia, and the focus will be to apply pressure on the Russian government to grant all necessary permits to the organizers of Moscow's third gay pride parade, scheduled for late May.

Last year, despite the mayor of Moscow refusing to grant permits to parade, gay marchers from around the world attempted to peaceably take to the streets for equality and tolerance, and were violently assaulted by ultra-nationalist thugs, sending some of the gays, covered in blood, to the hospital. Russian police stood by and did nothing to stop the attacks."

City: Chicago, IL
Date: Saturday, May 17
Time: 3:00 pm
Location: Women and Children First Bookstore
Action: Rally in front of store, then a march
Address: 5233 N. Clark Street, cross street is Farragaut
Contact: Andy Thayer; lgbtliberation@aol.com
Web site: GayLiberation.net

City: New York, NY
Date: Friday, May 16
Time: 12 noon
Location: Russian Consulate
Action: Speak out
Address: 9 E. 91st Street, cross street is Fifth Avenue
Contact: Brendan Fey; brendan@stpatsforall.com

City: San Francisco, CA
Date: Friday, May 16
Time: 12 noon
Location: Russian Consulate
Action: Speak out
Address: 2790 Green Street, cross street is Baker
Contact: Michael Petrelis; mpetrelis@aol.com

Safety, Lives of LGBT Moldovans Under Immediate Threat; Action Needed Now!

According to Queer Activism:

"The government refused police protection for this weekend's LGBT Pride March in Moldova's capital city of Chisinau, where members of the International Lesbian and Gay Association of Europe and Romania's human rights organization, ACCEPT, are also gathered. All legal procedures were followed to obtain the appropriate permits, and despite early promises, the mayor of Chisinau has withdrawn approval for the march permits. Police stood by silently as fascists attacked the bus with parade organizers and did not allow the march to take place.

The government of Moldova is threatening to arrest Rev. Elder Diane Fisher and Eastern European LGBT activist Florin Buhuceanu if they hold worship services for the LGBT community this weekend.

And they are refusing to provide police protection, despite numerous death threats made against Diane and Florin and the LGBT community there."

Write a brief e-mail to the Moldovan government. Ask them to honor their nation's laws and to allow the peaceful gathering of LGBT people and their supporters. Ask that the rights of LGBT people be protected. Let them know the eyes of the world are focused on Moldova this week.

The following email will allow you to contact the -- Moldovan Ministry of Justice, Moldovan Ministry of Social Protection, Moldovan Advocate for Human Rights, Moldova's Embassy in Washington, DC, and the Chisinau City Hall (Moldova's Capital City).

Click here to email government officials!

Join the Fainess For ALL Families Campaign

"Join the Fairness for ALL Families Campaign and pledge to safeguard legal protections, health care and employment benefits for all Floridians.

Up for a vote, the so-called "Marriage Protection Act," would strip away domestic partnership protections currently being relied on by thousands of Floridians, including seniors, fire fighters, teachers and police officers. It would also bar the passage of future measures to help Florida families.

Spread the word to your family, friends, co-workers and neighbors. Ask them to join Fairness Campaign and pledge to vote against any law that denies protections to Florida's families. SIGN THE PLEDGE, VOTE NO!"

http://ga4.org/campaign/ffafmember

Learn more and take additional action at VoteNoOn2!

Urgent Alert: Contact Reps Over Arizona Anti-Marriage Amendment

The Arizona House of Representatives are slated to vote Monday over a proposed bill that would place a ban on same-sex marriage amendment to the 2008 ballot for November.

Arizona residents CLICK HERE to find and contact your two representatives and tell them to vote against this hateful amendment and to support equality for LGBT residents.

"Voices Against 377" - Human Rights for India/Singapore!

‘Voices Against 377 is a coalition of Non Governmental Organisations (NGO) and progressive groups based in Delhi. It is a point of intersection and dialogue between various social movements that these groups represent, where a united voice is being articulated against Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code which criminalizes private consensual sexual acts deemed to be against the order of nature.

Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code is cited below:

“377. Unnatural Offences.
Whoever voluntarily has carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal, shall be punished with imprisonment for life, or with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to ten years, and shall also be liable to fine.”

The law penalizes certain sexual acts equally. For example oral sex, regardless of whether it is heterosexual or homosexual; even penile-masturbation of one person by another – is considered criminal. Although facially neutral, the law has effectively stigmatized and criminalized a section more than others, namely same-sex desiring people, including those who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT), hijra, kothi and other Queer people. The law has been used by the police to intimidate same sex desiring people and has been a source of serious human rights violations."



Sign the "Voices Against 377" Petition!

Open Forum: That's So Straight!?

Well all grew up hearing the famous phrase "sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me". It probably didn't take long to realize that this line is the furthest thing from the truth.

"75.4% of students heard derogatory remarks such as "faggot" or "dyke" frequently or often at school, and nearly nine out of ten (89.2%) reported hearing "that's so gay" or "you're so gay" - meaning stupid or worthless- frequently or often." (GLSEN)

The National School Climate Survey found that LGBT students are more likely to by physically harassed, skip class, drop out, and have a lower GPA due to assault.

Words are hurtful and many times abuse begins verbally and eventually leads to physical violence. As Queer activists & Allies it is important to stand up, many times people utter these words without thinking twice about what their connotation is and whom they might be offending.

So I pose the question, what if anything do you do to combat hateful words? Do you say something, and if so how do you handle it and what has the outcome been?

Hope for Trans Community With New DSM - V?

The APA has released a statement to activists who have emailed and called concerning the APA Diagnostic Statistical Manual. Activists have been very concerned over some people appointed to the committee who are very transphobic and who would likely keep the label "Gender Identity Disorder" even though moden research shows transgender people are just as healthy as everyone else in the population and are NOT disordered! The Gender Identity Disorders task force, is chaired by Peggy T. Cohen Kettenis, Ph.D. who is rumored to be TG friendly.

This being said our work is not done, Dr. Kenneth Zucker head of the entire Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders committee is very transphobic and believes in "reparative therapy" for transgender children.

"APA STATEMENT ON GID AND THE DSM

May 9, 2008

The American Psychiatric Association has received inquiries about the DSM-V process, particularly concerns raised about the Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders Work Group.

The APA has a long-standing mission to provide guidelines for the diagnosis and treatment of mental disorders, based on the most current clinical and scientific knowledge. Through advocacy and education of the public and policymakers, the APA also affirms it commitment to reducing stigma and discrimination.

The DSM addresses criteria for the diagnosis of mental disorders. The DSM does not provide treatment recommendations or guidelines. The APA is aware of the need for greater scientific and clinical consensus on the best treatments for individuals with Gender Identity Disorder (GID). Toward that end, the APA Board of Trustees voted to create a special APA Task Force to review the scientific and clinical literature on the treatment of GID. It is expected that members of the Task Force will be appointed shortly.

There are 13 DSM-V work groups. Collectively, the work group members will review all existing diagnostic categories in the current DSM. Each work group will be able to make proposals to revise existing diagnostic criteria, to consider new diagnostic categories, and to suggest deleting existing diagnostic categories.

All DSM-V work group proposals will be based on a careful, balanced review and analysis of the best clinical and scientific data. Evidence accumulated from work group members and hundreds of additional advisors to the DSM-V effort will be considered before final recommendations are made.

The Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders Work Group, chaired by Kenneth J. Zucker, Ph.D., will have 13 members who will form three subcommittees:

* Gender Identity Disorders, chaired by Peggy T. Cohen-Kettenis, Ph.D.
* Paraphilias, chaired by Ray Blanchard, Ph.D.
* Sexual Dysfunctions, chaired by R. Taylor Segraves, M.D., Ph.D.

Each subcommittee will pursue its own charge, provide ongoing peer review, and consult with outside experts. The DSM-V is expected to be published in 2012."
(This was a response given to Jessica L. off of Susans.org Forums)

Oppose Army ROTC at UMBC

According to the Baltimore Sun:

"Faculty and other members of the University of Maryland, Baltimore County community have started circulating an online petition to protest a proposed ROTC unit at the Catonsville campus, which could open this fall.

The petition says the Army's treatment of homosexual soldiers conflicts with the university's nondiscrimination policy, and also declares concern about "militarization" of the student body. Worchesky said the petition is "part of the joy of being at a university. Everyone gets to voice their opinion, and we listen to each other."

Sign the Petition!

Ding Dong the Witch is Getting an Honorary Degree?

Washington University in St. Louis is set to give an honorary degree to anti-gay, anti-feminist activist Ms. Phylis Schlafly at the graduation ceremony on May 16 in St. Louis, Mo.

Schlafly, founder of the Eagle Forum (a right-wing anti-Queer think tank) has been an opponent of LGBT rights and feminism. She has dedicated her life to being an anti-gay advocate pushing against equal rights legislation and Queer visibility within Washington U. her alma-matter.


Email the Washington University in St. Louis to let them know that having a bigot receive an honorary degree is inappropriate.

Click Here to take action on the issue!

True Colors Tour - Concert for LGBT Equality!

"The goal of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender (GLBT) equality is at the heart of True Colors. From day one, the tour has sought to raise awareness about the discrimination the GLBT community still faces and raise significant funds for the organizations that work everyday on their behalf. This year, the True Colors Fund of Stonewall Community Foundation has been created to enable increased and efficient fundraising for the tour's national non-profit partners through various revenue sources. In addition to a portion of every ticket purchase, money will be raised through benefits."

The Lineup: (Different per state, and venue, check for your local listing).

Cyndi Lauper, The B-52's, Rosie O'Donnell, Regina Spektor, Andy Bell of Erasure, Teagan & Sara, Carson Kressley, Joan Jett & the Blackhearts,Indigo Girls, Wanda Sykes, Joan Armatrading, Deborah Cox, The Cliks, The Puppini Sisters,Nona Hendryx, Kate Clinton, and Girl in a Coma.

Check for tour listings all over the U.S. and Canada and rock out for LGBT equality!
http://www.truecolorstour.com

*Photo shared by mountain_man_ny_2' s of Creative Commons.

APA will Tackle Gender Identity for DSM -V

The American Psychiatric Association is currently in the process of putting out their new Diagnostic Statistical Manual which deals with all aspects of psychiatric disorders and issues. Currently transgender people are unfairly labeled as having "Gender Identity Disorder" even though the research goes to show that this is not a disorder but yet a variation of the human condition.

UPDATE: There is more information about who will be on the panel over at Trans News

Please contact the APA about this and demand trans-friendly and LGBT friendly individuals be put on the panel discussing Gender Identity.

Call Toll-Free: 1-888-35-PSYCH

Click here to email officials at the APA

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The APA has now set up a group of so called "experts" to deal with addressing this issue and others in the world of psychology.
APA Press Release

Good news? Not so much.

Apparently one of the people on the committee has been quoted as saying "This is not waving a magic wand and a man becomes a woman and vice versa," he says. "It's something that has to be taken very seriously. A man without a penis has certain disadvantages in this world, and this is in reality what you're creating.

-Ray Blanchard, Ph.D

Is this the kind of sensitivity and expertise we want addressing trans issues?

Head on over to GID Reform Advocates an organization dedicated to reforming the classification of trans people as being mentally ill.

Cayman Islands Police Enforce Antiquated "Gay Affection Law"

UPDATE: According to Towerload:

"Cayman Islands Director of Tourism Pilar Bush sent a letter of apology to Aaron Chandler, the 23-year-old Massachusetts man who was arrested last Thursday in the Caymans after kissing his partner on a dance floor while vacationing there.

Said Bush in the letter, which Chandler received on Friday: "On behalf of the entire Department of Tourism, I apologise for your upsetting experience and want to assure you that the Cayman Islands is a welcoming jurisdiction to all people. What happened to you was an isolated incident, and is not representative of Cayman. We know that thousands of gay and lesbian visitors travel to the Cayman Islands every year and enjoy their vacation."

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According to: Queerty:

"Homophobia’s got a way of lasting the test of time. Massachusetts-based gay activist Aaron Chandler certainly learned that lesson this week.

The 23-year old wrote in from the Grand Cayman Islands, where he and some friends are currently on vacation. Chandler explained that he, his boyfriend and some gal pals went out for a night of dancing when a police officer broke up their party to reprimand Chandler for “showing public affection” with his boyfriend.

The men originally blew the copper off, but learned a lesson when, after they kissed again, the copper called for backup.

There are two problems here, one more severe than the other. First, the fact that sexual policing remains on the books in this British territory confounds, but doesn’t surprise. Gibraltar, another British overseas territory, maintains discriminatory age of consent laws. Former protectorates such as the islands - and other sovereign lands - cling to Britain’s antiquated anti-gay laws."

Feel free to voice your concern to the Cayman Islands tourism website, Gay travel enthusiasts may think twice about traveling to a country where affection can get you arrested.

Contact Cayman Islands Tourism Board

U.K. Campaign Against Homophobic Bullying

The Liberal Democrats have launched a campaign to end homophobic bullying in schools across the U.K.

The call is for the following to support and protect the victims of homophobic bullying:

1. Homophobic taunts and name calling in schools should be challenged immediately by staff.

2. All schools' anti-bullying policies should be required to include measures specifically to deal with homophobic bullying.

3. At least one teacher in every school should undergo training which includes how to tackle homophobic bullying.

Please sign the petition which will be sent to the House of Commons and Lords as part on ongoing work to amend the current Education and Inspections Bill to tackle this problem

http://www.libdems.org.uk/campaigns/stop-homophobic-bullying.html

"The Sexual Questionnaire" - Reversing Questions Asked of Asexuals

A few weeks back I posted the Heterosexual Questionnaire to reverse silly questions often asked of gay people, and let straight people tackle them.

Thanks to the clever wit of the Asexual Underground there is now one adapted for sexual people, to better understand asexuals.

"Please note that this is meant facetiously, and in no way should be used that human sexuality is unnatural or unhealthy— for most people it is natural and healthy. The purpose of these questions is to challenge the assumption that all people inherently are or should be sexual.

1) What do you think caused your sexuality?

2) When and how did you first decide you were sexual, and why did you make that choice?

3) Is it possible that your sexuality is just a phase that you will grow out of?

4) It is possible that your sexuality stems from a neurotic fear of dealing with people and not just their bodies, or from a neurotic obsession with physical bodies, or worse, an inability to see past a body?

5) Sexuals have histories of failed asexual relationships, not being able to deal with close personal non-sexual relating. Do you think you may have turned sexual out of fear of emotional intimacy?

6) If you’ve never had a really intimate relationship with someone without all the messy things that happen when you mix in sex and bodily fluids, how do you know you wouldn’t prefer that?

7) If sexuality is normal, why is there such huge spectrum of sexual attraction, drive and desire?

8) Sexuality and sexual activity can be indicative of hormonal or psychological problems, and even brain damage. Have you considered getting your hormones checked or having a psychological assessment?

9) Many people who have been sexually abused while children or teenagers act out sexually and become very sexual later in life. Were you abused as a child or teenager? Is that why you are sexual?

10) To whom have you disclosed your sexual tendencies? How did they react?

11) Your sexuality doesn’t offend me as long as you leave me alone, but why do so many sexuals try to seduce others into that orientation, or seduce them all?

12) If you should choose to nurture children, would you want them to be sexual, knowing the problems they would face, all the complicated things they would need to deal with in their relationships and lives?

13) Most child molesters, rapists and abusers are sexual. Do you consider it safe to expose your children to sexuals? Sexual teachers, particularly?

14) Why must sexuals be so blatant, making a public spectacle of your sexuality? Can’t you just be what you are and keep it quiet?

15) Sexuals always assign their relationships such narrowly restricted, categories of “friend” or “partner”. Why do you cling to such unhealthy and limiting relationship categories? Why can’t you just love?

16) How can you have a fully satisfying, deeply emotional experience with another person when you are preoccupied by sex and what your bodies are doing? How can two people actually be intimate if they are constantly seeing and treating each other as sexual objects, or trying to get sexual fulfillment?

17) Sexual relationships have total societal support, yet divorce and messy break ups continue to cause sexuals profound distress. Why are there so few stable sexual relationships?

18) Since sexuality and problems that stem from it are so painful for so many people, techniques have been developed to help sexuals change. Have you considered trying hormone or aversion therapy?

20) How do sexuals ever concentrate when they have to deal with the constant bother of sexual attraction, sex drive, and spending time and energy pursuing people for sexual relationships?

21) A disproportionate number of criminals and other irresponsible types are sexual. And there are so many types of self-destructive, abusive and oppressive behaviours that are sexual in nature. So how can sexuality possibly be normal and healthy?

22) So many sexual people are only willing to be emotionally intimate with someone if they are in a sexual relationship. Why are sexuals so emotionally frigid?

23) Maybe you only think you’re sexual because you haven’t met the right person. Do you think you’re only turning to sexuality because you are desperate and emotionally unfulfilled?

24) There are so many physical risks involved with sexuality, including STI’s and unplanned pregnancy, not to mention the emotional risks and frustration especially in long-term committed sexual relationships. Why would anyone want to be sexual?

25) Why do sexuals need to be validated by having someone else desire them sexually? Why are they so insecure?"

Take Action: Memphis Principle Outs her Students

***UPDATE*** I'm bumping this thread up because apparently the Memphis City Schools Board is defending the actions of Principal Beasley.

You can contact the commissioners by email here

According to Queer Today:

"A public high school principal who posted the names of two boys on a list of students believed to be couples, revealing their relationship to their parents as well as other students and teachers, violated the students’ constitutional right to freedom of association, the American Civil Liberties Union charged Tuesday.

In a letter to school board officials in Memphis, the ACLU demanded that the school reprimand the principal and take steps to ensure such actions never happen again.

In September of 2007, the principal at Hollis F. Price Middle College High told teachers she wanted the names of all student couples, “hetero and homo,” because she wanted to monitor them personally to prevent students from engaging in public displays of affection."

The Principal is:

Daphne Beasley

Email: BeasleyD@mcsk12.net


(901) 435-1765

The school's address is:

Hollis F. Price Middle College High

807 Walker Avenue

Memphis, TN 38126

The Memphis City Schools Superintendent is:

Dan Ward

2597 Avery St., Room 214

Memphis, TN 38112

Phone: (901) 416-5300

Fax: (901) 416-5578

Email: superintendentward@mcsk12.net

Open Forum: Affectional Orientation

I came across an interesting Wikipedia entry about this term called "affectional orientation".

"Affectional orientation (or romantic orientation) is an alternative term for sexual orientation. It is based on the perspective that sexual attraction/desire is but a single component of a larger dynamic. To holders of this view, one's orientation is defined by whom one is predisposed to fall in love with, whether or not one desires that person sexually. Lately, the predominant use of the term "sexual orientation" is considered to reduce a whole category of desires and emotions, as well as power and connection, to sex.

The term affectional orientation is also used by those who consider themselves asexual and only feel emotional and/or physical (aesthetic) attraction. The terms used for different affectional orientations are usually the same as those for sexual orientations; though "homoromantic", "biromantic," "heteroromantic," and "aromantic" have gained some popularity. Asexuals sometimes incorporate colloquial terms to describe both the romantic and sexual components of their orientation (e.g. gay-asexual, bi-asexual, and straight-asexual).

There are also those who hold the view that one's orientation is defined by whom one has affection for and that their sexual attraction (or "drive", perhaps more appropriately) is dependent upon affection for another human being's personal qualities, regardless of their sex, gender or even outward appearance altogether. This use of the term does not require falling in love but is still based on a personal affection. One might now consider the phrase "conditional sexual attraction" to describe the experience of those who are otherwise asexual, as opposed to "primary sexual attraction" used to describe people who are "sexual"."

So what do you guys think? Do you think that the term "sexual orientation" defines our relationships purely on sexual terms and negates the whole aspect that Queer relationships are based on love, sex, financial stability, family, etc. Should we be using the term "affectional orientation" as opposed to "sexual orientation" or are both legitimate in different settings? Thoughts? Comments?

Tell Notre Dame Sexual Orientation Ain't No Game!

According to: The Observer

"Students from the Progressive Student Alliance (PSA) will deliver a petition to the Office of the President Wednesday to add sexual orientation to Notre Dame's Non-Discrimination, PSA member Mike McCann said.

In 1998, PSA "organized the 300 person demonstration in support of Fr. David Garrick, the Holy Cross priest who was dismissed from his duties at the Basilica after coming out as a celibate homosexual priest," PSA member McCann said in an e-mail. Garrick came out in an April 4, 1996 letter in The Observer.

Garrick resigned from the University in March 1998.

Later in the year, both the Faculty and the Student Senates passed resolutions in favor of adding sexual orientation to the non-discrimination clause, McCann said.

PSA then formed a petition in Oct. 1998 to add the term and obtained more than 1,100 signatures, he said. They also held a rally before a meeting of the Academic Council and brought speakers in favor of changing the clause to campus in November, McCann said.

The Academic Council passed the motion to change the clause by one vote in November, McCann said.

On Dec. 1, 1998, "the Board of Fellows met and unanimously voted against including sexual orientation in the non-discrimination clause," McCann said.
PSA member Rob Plasschaert said 2,500 to 3,000 members of the Notre Dame community signed the petition."

Whether you are a student or alumni of Notre Dame, or just a concerned citizen. Send them an email and let them know sexual orientation/gender identity should be a protected category.

Contact Notre Dame President Rev. John I. Jenkins