A "sexless marriage" is a term used to describe couples who engage in little to no sexual activity. There can be a variety of reasons couples choose to remain in a "sexless marriage" including one or more partners who have an asexual orientation.
Friday, September 5, 2008
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That's my marriage. He wants it and I don't.
I think mine is because I have yet to be
satisified with what I need. He's always
getting what he wants from it and what I ask
for and need never get noticed.
Oh well!
HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Laurie - Not to get into your personal sex life, but if he wants it so bad wouldn't he try to please you more so as to avoid not getting any at all?
HA! He's a straight man. All I ask is when
it feels good to me DON'T CHANGE IT!
You can pretty much figure out the rest.
After a certain time I block it out.
HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Heheh... or you could use the french term une marriage blanche.
Sexless relationships are more often the norm these days, especially among homosexual couples. I have not run into more than a few monogamous couples. After the first 3 or 4 sexual encounters with your "Long Term" partner you've already figured out everything there is to know sexually about the other person. If the pattern develops that what happens during a sexual encounter is nothing but awkward and uncomfortable (which is usually the case) there's little hope that any of that will change. Trying to follow the suggestions of good intentioned therapists typically serve to show more of the distance between two people who still want a relationship but can't tolerate the sexual or intimate sides of it. Sexless relationships are only going to get worse. Swinging and prostitution are now more than ever acceptable ways of retaining a sexual life when it dies in your primary relationship. Sure there are those who say that shouldn't happen if you love each other and so on but how many out there can attest to this experience as being a reason they find themselves in a sexless relationship? Sex should be exciting and fun. Once you're no longer exciting or new to someone sex just seems like a waste of ten minutes. Self pleasure is the best way to stay laid. One night stands, third persons and robotic sex with a bored and disinterested partner aren't for me. I'd rather enjoy the other persons company and have the hot sex in my head with whoever I pick when taking care of my morning shower business. That way I get my needs met without impacting the other person at all, plus it's the safest most satisfying sex their is lol.
I agree 100% with FluffyFlyer...sex is only a small piece of a larger whole known as the relationship. A relationship is definitely not one size fits all, so it is up to each couple (or triplet, quadruplet...etc) to figure out what works and what does not. If it ain't broke then don't fix it. But if sex is a problem, then figure out what needs to be done because the relationship is meant to make everybody involved happy.
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