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"Mixed Orientation Relationships" are when one of the partners is a different sexual orientation than the other. These occur when partner comes out later on in life, or are a marriage of convenience.
Wouldn't this also occur when one partner (and not the other) is bisexual?
Anonymous....No, it's not the same as beingbisexual....Cause the one partner comes to thepoint in the relationship that they can nolonger lie to themself or to their spouse...They also do not come back to the opposite sexafter they leave....The spouse may even knowabout it and not mind....But there is no realsexual attraction to the opposite sex....
Yes, I was wondering the same thing about bisexuality. I think there is an argument to be made that being bisexual and being lesbian (or gay) ARE two different sexual attractions. Where do these definitions come from, by the way?
Another term for this when the people are married is Mixed Oriented (or Orientation) Marriage, or MOM. This term is often used in an email support group (SOTTS, or Spouses Out To Their Spouses) that I belong to.
With all due respect:Being bisexual and being straight are not the same thing. A bisexual and a heterosexual who are married to each other have different issues than 2 heterosexuals.It is a MOM.
I would also say that if a bisexual man is married to a straight woman (for example), that would still be different orientations. Same for an asexual person with a gay, bi, or straight partner.
Ily: I was thinking along similar lines. A gay and a bi man in a relationship would be a mixed orientation relationship.
You all bring up great points, I definitely think there are some cases where both partners are a different sexual orientation. But I guess the term was created for the straight man/woman married to a gay man/woman. Terms evolve though, and I think there is health discussion here and valid.
Marc thank you for by the way, I was debating whether to post Mixed Orientation Marriage or relationship but I figured not every mixed orientation was married but every mixed orientation is in a relationship, maybe ill post the other another day. Another synonym for this term is lavender marriage.
A similar term is also used to refer to a relationship or marriage between a person who identifies as sexual (whether hetero-, homo-, bi-, or pan-) and a person who identifies as asexual.
I think the situation is often not as simple as "gay, came out late or marriage of convenience." Men on MOM support groups often debate at great length whether to think of themselves as "gay" or "bi," since most love their wife and enjoy sex with her, but otherwise are only attracted to men. Most marry out of love, not fear or convenience. My husband was in several long term relationships with men before falling in love with me, and he is not attracted to any other women - but does have strong MM attractions.
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